Preface
About the Author
1. Every Parent's Nightmare--and Yours, Too!
Who Will Benefit From This Book?
The High Cost of Ignoring the Problem
How Educators Have Overlooked Parents as Partners
How to Use This Book With Parents
2. What Bullying and Teasing Do to Everyone--Kids, Adults, and Communities
Death Comes to Lake Wobegon
When Intervention Stops Tragedy
The Pain That Resonates to the Bone
How Everyone Loses When Bullying Occurs
3. Why Parents Complain About Schools' Responses to Bullying
Parents' Attitudes Toward Public Schools: The Statistics
About Those "They Didn't Do Anything" Claims
Documenting the Facts on Interventions
4. How to Talk to Parents Whose Children Are Bullied
Parents of Bullied Children: The Two Camps
Working With the Actively Involved Parent
Working With the Less Actively Involved Parent
The ?Inverted Curve? and Tension Cycle
5. How to Work With Parents Whose Children Bully Others
Some Things to Keep in Mind About the Families of Aggressive Children
Television?s Impact on Children and Bullying
KISSing a Plan Increases the Chances of Success for Everyone
6. The Parent Who Refuses to Cooperate
Subverting the Dominant Paradigm
Conflict Resolution With Parents Who Refuse to Cooperate
Eleven Global Approaches Toward Conflict Resolution
7. Types of Difficult Parents
What About Mediation and Negotiation?
8. Helping Parents Talk at Home With Their Children About Misbehaviors
Helping Parents Understand Punishment, Accountability, and Restitution
Helping Parents Help Their Child to Think About Righting a Wrong
What Happens After That First Step?
9. Seven Talking Points for Helping Parents Talk to Children About Being Bullied
Talking Point 1: Help Parents Understand the Importance of Listening to Their Child?s Concerns About Bullying and Teasing
Talking Point 2: Asking the Right Questions Will Likely Increase Parent-Child Communication
Talking Point 3: Parents Want to Obtain as Many Details as Possible in an Understanding Fashion
Talking Point 4: Parents Need to Assure Their Children That They Will Work With Them to Find a Solution to the Problem
Talking Point 5: Parents Should Ask the Child?s Opinions and Concerns About Discussing the Situation With School Personnel
Talking Point 6: Encourage the Child Not to Respond to Provocation With Violence
Talking Point 7: Parents Should Encourage Their Child to Ask Those in the Supervisory Capacity for Assistance
10. Fair Expectations of Parents and Educators in Solving the Problem of Bullying
Fair Expectation 1: Not All Bullying Behaviors Can Be Stopped or Prevented
Fair Expectation 2: Once Bullying Has Been Reported, the Parent Has the Right to Expect the Supervisory Authority to Investigate the Concern
Fair Expectation 3: Parents Expect the Supervisory Authority to Investigate the Concern
Fair Expectation 4: Appropriate Intervention Will Take Place If the Concerns Are Validated
Fair Expectation 5: The Supervisory Authority Will Communicate With Parents as to the Outcome of the Intervention
Fair Expectation 6: Never Forget Fair Expectation 1?Not All Bullying Behaviors Can Be Stopped or Prevented
11. The Courage to Act
References
Index
